Keeping it on a downlow

Many of us will feel compelled to have a big lavish traditional wedding affair, a stupendous ‘do’ to conquer all ‘dos’ that came before – perhaps we have Disney to blame for our childhood expectations of what a wedding should be……

But what becomes of those of us who don’t wish to marry with an audience?  Who quiver at the thought of being centre of attention?

Here we may find ourselves in a difficult scenario, you may want certain bits and pieces of the traditional fluttered throughout your day but not an all singing all dancing drama. Or certain people to attend but not others.

So how do you not offend those that are left out??  And face the consistent questions of when, where and how? And ultimately  “but why??”

Someone will inevitably be distressed despite all best laid plans.  Small ideas you have whispered into the ears of close loved ones can easily become hoisted onto huge raised platforms for all the world and his auntie to see. Before you know it your romantic private wedding day will become unrecognisable from the initial early days of “lets elope!!”

Now I don’t pretend to have all the answers to this one but I certainly would offer the following tips:

  • Be affirmative and clear to all those involved from the start. No point ummin and arring at the suggestion of a procession of long lost friends children trailing you down the aisle when you really want your little yorkshire terrier to do the honours.
  • Keep the faith that those who know and love you well (although possibly be a little disgruntled) will essentially understand.
  • Don’t feel obliged to conform with what everyone else thinks “your” day should be. Stay strong.
  • You will never please everyone so you may as well at least please yourselves.
  • Be open to suggestions, be kind and courteous but stick to your guns.
  • Ultimately don’t become overwhelmed with the plans….you are beginning a life long marriage not having a one day event.

We’d love to hear your tips on “keeping it on a downlow” please comment with your ideas and good/bad experiences to help other wed’n’day-ers along the way.

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Which season should you get married??

A wedding, whilst super “eeeekkkk” exciting can be a tough merriment to get your head around, once the initial screaming of your heart has settled down and you start getting down to the planning of your big day you may find the list of things you need to figure out is longer than you had anticipated.

When and where will normally be the first thing that you think of so with that in mind….

Which season should you get married??  Check out our descriptions and pics below to see which of the seasons you feel more drawn towards

Spring ding dongs –

Gorgeous blue skys revealing a grand reawakening to the year. New life growing around us, sweet smells drifting along on a dandelion airship.
Prospects held high on rainbows, fresh days, right and ready.


Summer loving –

Balmy days, sun kissed waves. Feeling alive, barefooted and beautiful. Red hot beams lighting perfect, happy memories to be made. Vibrancy and eclecticism filling days that never end.


Autumn fall ‘head over heels’ –

Enchanting moonlights and dancing shadows.  Burnt reds, golds & spectacular whizz bangs. Wondrous woodlands, crackling fires and everlasting fairytales to be told.


“Tis the season to get married fa la la la la” –

Ice kissed paths, excited faces, sugarplums hidden in dewy pines.  Dreams of snowflakes, sparkles and glistening ribbons.  Extravagance meets indulgence. Grottos, candles and warm cloaks enveloping  an air  of love to see you through the cold, crisp days.


“Love, all alike, no season knows, nor clime,
Nor hours, days, months, which are the rags of time.” – John Donne

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